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ChiBoyinLA
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01-11-18 01:15 PM - Post#1708791    



What kind of a man has an affair when his wife is pregnant? Or when the wife is battling a potentially fatal disease. Question is prompted by stories I recently read in the news, but really applies all the time. It just always floors me when I hear stories like this. I think it says a lot about a man's character -- a lot of nothing good.

I'm sure that most or all of us have had our dicks tell us to do it at one time or another . . . or a lot of times . . . but at least for me, my head always steps in and stops that thinking right quick. I just don't see how the momentary pleasure -- now matter how great it might be -- would ever be worth the life destruction that inevitably will follow sooner or later.

Any cheaters here? Can you explain this? Why can't you just go see a hooker or use porn?
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01-11-18 02:10 PM - Post#1708794    


    In response to ChiBoyinLA

We can't use porn and a hooker because that makes us human traffickers! Kidding! lol.

ChiBoy, I have been part of 4 wedding parties, been best man to one wedding and attended probably a dozen weddings over the last decade. Only two of those marriages are still ongoing. On top of that, I've heard of about half-a-dozen or so other marriages of people I'm related to fall apart. Most of those people who wedded fell into the late Generation X or firmly in the Millenial generation.

Like everything else we see, including in politics, that specific age group doesn't handle adversity well. Marriage and relationships take a lot of work. I was raise on that belief. But not many in my generation were and take the first out they see the moment they face marital or relationship issues.

If I were to guess, this generation I speak of is batting well below .500 on marriages and we have officially seen the last generation of valid wedding vows.


 
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01-11-18 02:29 PM - Post#1708795    


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10 married couples that were at my wedding 10 years ago are now divorced. Two for sure because of cheating. One couple had been married 20 plus years. I'd say most are older than Gen X.
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01-11-18 02:32 PM - Post#1708796    


    In response to Canucko29

My fiancees ex told her he cheated when she was pregnant because her stomach was too big and he wasn't attracted to her. The other 4 times that she knows of he didn't give an excuse.
Germany, it's like Wisconsin only with a really bad past.


 
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01-11-18 03:05 PM - Post#1708799    


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  • bean Said:
10 married couples that were at my wedding 10 years ago are now divorced. Two for sure because of cheating. One couple had been married 20 plus years. I'd say most are older than Gen X.



That's actually not surprising since it was the baby boomers who raised this generation and that is when the decline really began. Albeit, I'd venture to guess that the baby boomers marriages lasted longer than any succeeding generation on average. Perhaps the real last generation of genuine marriages was the WWII gen (Greatest).

Also, that is not to say that people here don't have great marriages. I'm sure there are a few. They just aren't that common any more. Divorces/living in sin seems to be the new normal.


 
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01-11-18 04:27 PM - Post#1708805    


    In response to Canucko29

Each generation has gotten more and more into what the individual wants, and less interested in what something bigger than them needs.

We can argue all day and night about the particulars, but I don't think the mockery of religion, patriotism, country / culture, military, has helped.

Everybody's better off when you place the needs of bigger things above your own.

Those of us that are accidental, random throwbacks to the old timers, are very lucky.

I couldn't live with having wrecked everything for anybody else that I was supposed to have cared for.

As the OP says, sometimes your head has to punch your dick, right in the head.


 
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01-11-18 07:50 PM - Post#1708811    


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I'm coming up on my 20th anniversary in a month. My marriage is far from rainbows and lollypops (whose is?) but I think at this point I can say with great certainty that I would never cheat on my wife. We've got two kids, a home in a primo neighborhood, the general respect of our community and I really like her whole family -- I'd be a fucking idiot to throw that away just for some new pussy.

And for some guys to do that when a baby is on the way? Man, I just don't get it.

P.S. My parents divorced when I was 6. It was not the result of cheating, or I am sure I would have heard stories at some point. My dad remarried a couple years later and had a very stable second marriage to a great lady until he died. My mother dated losers off and on for decades. So, I've seen both sides. Divorce fucking SUCKS for kids, pretty much for as long as both parents remain alive (unless maybe it was for one of the parents to get out of an abusive situation). I would never do that to my kids.
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Edited by ChiBoyinLA on 01-11-18 07:54 PM. Reason for edit: No reason given.
 
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01-12-18 09:41 AM - Post#1708826    


    In response to ChiBoyinLA

I'm at a similar part of my life as ChiBoyinLA. I've been married for 14 years. I have a 13 and 11 year old. My wife and I have great jobs, terrific kids, sweet house and life by the balls honestly. I'm 45 years old, new pussy meh. Maybe back when I was 25 walking around with a cock that could poke holes in drywall maybe. I'm happy getting it a couple times a month, drinking fine single malt scotch and watching my family flourish. My kids need my and my wife together mush more than I need new snatch.
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01-12-18 11:26 AM - Post#1708841    


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I think most people assume that dudes just don't listen to Mr. Rhythm...



But it's almost always (both ways...men and women who cheat) based on a lack of self respect.

If husband isn't getting laid as often as he wants and preggo wifey just can't fit anything else into her lower abdominal area, he's going to seek out not-just-pussy, but someone to confirm that he is fuckable and massage his feeble ego.

Not meaning to brag, but I've never cheated and haven't even felt an iota of compulsion to do so ever. Probably because I don't ever let my ego control me and I have plenty of self confidence.

I will say that I do know quite a few people who have "successful" marriages...and I would suggest that many of them aren't of the "happy" variety, but most stick with it for the kids and make it work.

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01-12-18 03:17 PM - Post#1708852    


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What's funny is my fiancee would beg him for sex, even after the kids were born and up, until she finally got sick of him cheating and lying so she told him to leave. That girl has the libido of an 18 year old boy and I love it.
Germany, it's like Wisconsin only with a really bad past.


 
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01-13-18 12:04 PM - Post#1708885    


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Over the past decade, I've been/in to 10 weddings and all are still in tact. The ages range from 28-36 for all parties involved. I guess that makes me and the people I associate with very square!

I just watched a so-so show on Netflix called Gypsy. It was all about cheating and a middle-aged woman bored with her routine.

I think people tire quickly of everyday life. Temptation is everywhere - on your phone, on your computer, at work, at the gym, the babysitter. Since the vows of marriage don't really mean anything anymore, it's probably easier for people to justify "just trying something different and what he/she doesn't know, won't kill..."

Fun times.
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01-13-18 12:08 PM - Post#1708886    


    In response to FreezingTexan

Ultimate form of disrespect, I have plenty of married friends that cheat on their wives and they all have children. I could never look at my wife and children in the face if I did that. They do it like its nothing I never could understand that. Fucked up shit.
 
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01-13-18 12:18 PM - Post#1708887    


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I've been married for over 11 years. It's easier for me as I don't have a face that invites temptation.
 
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01-13-18 01:51 PM - Post#1708891    


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  • FreezingTexan Said:
That girl has the libido of an 18 year old boy and I love it.



wuuuuuuut...........


 
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01-13-18 02:18 PM - Post#1708897    


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23 years for me.

Zero cheating.

Not looking for a medal or a participation trophy, but I still believe that a vow is important to keep.
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01-13-18 02:21 PM - Post#1708898    


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21 faithful years for me. If I have any friends who are cheating on their spouses they haven't told me.
My wife's best friend used to cheat on her husband. Then she convinced him that it would help their sex life if he let her sleep with other men. So now she cheats on him with his blessing. And she contacted herpes in the process.


 
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01-13-18 02:44 PM - Post#1708901    


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That's fucked. He must be an "intellectual".

https://www.thedailybeast.com/cuckolding-the-sex-f...
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NYR_Nutz
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01-13-18 08:07 PM - Post#1708910    


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Did OP just say that getting with a hooker isn't cheating?

Ten years married, 5 month old baby. There is zero chance I would ever cheat on my wife.


 
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01-13-18 09:29 PM - Post#1708913    


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Hooker only doesn't equal cheating if the wife is cool with it.

Almost 8 years married, 3m old twins, have never even come close to cheating though I've found myself in a few situations where it would have almost been expected.

I think one of my best friends is currently cheating on his wife/mother of his 6mo old, but he hasn't said anything to me. Our wives are best friends from childhood so Its a long ago made agreement that we would always keep the other in the dark with respect to such things. I just find it odd that a salesman on the west coast, who does most of his sales via phone, would routinely stay late at work on a friday to "close a big deal".... time zones suggest he is full of shit.
 
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01-13-18 10:38 PM - Post#1708914    


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Remember...Eating ain't cheating.


 
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